True to the motto: If everyone thinks of itself, is thought to each run by egotists the world, take the biggest piece of the pie and the most convenient parking space in front of the supermarket. Her concern and love is above all themselves. Ugh! … Or is it?
Caveat: From hardcore egomaniacs, the jostle at the expense of others through life, should not be discussed here. But we want to dispel the notion that only those good people who take themselves back constantly. A little selfishness is sometimes quite healthy! And it is Paradoxical as it may sound, in the end even the person benefited.
The fact is: A healthy self-love is the basis for any charity. How will you help others on the jumps, even if you get constantly too short? As strength and comfort donate if you yourself have no energy? Only those who pay attention to their own needs and desires, it can also be a different post.
To all selfless, altruistic and people with helper syndrome: A little selfishness is not only allowed, but definitely desired! For example, in the following situations:
- Partnership: Who ever take back is not happy in the long run. Even in a relationship, you should always pay attention to your own needs. This not only strengthens the ego, but in the end the love.
- Job: Who can be charged too much work of colleagues constantly, eventually gets a stomach ulcer. And that really uses then anyone.
- Gifts? Compliments? Attentions? Whoever wave here comes the other on the head. In addition, each of us deserves every now and then a little pampering!
- Content conversation: Who holds back here distinguished, is really your own fault.
- Pusher: If someone at the supermarket or in the parking, one must not tolerate polite. But clear boundaries show!
- Sale Discussions: Who is doing the out of sheer courtesy and compassion might still have a contract on the phone completes – comes not in the sky, but sometime into severe financial difficulties.
- Dreams & Goals: When it comes to the pursuit very own dreams, you should always be selfish. Who do we want to do later responsible for ensuring that we have not lived our lives?
- Who realizes that he is systematically exploited by others, should not be satisfied with shoulder knockers and warm words. But finally be selfish and show the red card!