The secret of long friendships

Friends are a wonderful thing. Often they are similar to us close as our life partner. The special feature: you do not see us through rose-colored glasses, but rather clear and sober. And they love us anyway!

Best friends forever: That sounds great, but is not always so simple. Because even among good friends, there is uncertainty, controversy and disappointment. For example, because a lot invested and the other shows little grateful. There are many reasons why friendships break.

How, then, cultivates a friendship so just does not happen? What people make up correctly, are a life closely connected? Friendship is always a give and take, said the Berlin psychotherapist and author Dr. Wolfgang. One should be aware that you have to make and maintain friendships. And not just in good times but also or just in times of crisis. This shows most of who is a true friend and who is not.”

It does not make superhuman to get a friendship one. Ultimately, it is enough if we take a week one to two hours time for each other, make an appointment and ask ourselves honestly, how is the other, says the expert. The more we are willing to open ourselves and tell the others, the more wins the friendship of depth.

1. Tip: Show Interest

Friendships always live on the interest on the other, says expert Dr. Wolfgang. Genuine interest. We should not only ask: How are you But we should also ask? What troubles you What’s been your life long issue and how can I help you here. From experience we all know: A friend who can really listen, gold is worth.

2. Tip: Ask

Apart from our sandbox childhood friends we know many friends only half, because we have learned in adulthood. From our childhood, they often know nothing. That can change, says Dr. Wolfgang Why do not you sit with his friends together and looks at old childhood photos, telling stories, so that the other gets an insight into your own world?

3. Tip: Write a letter

Why do not we tell the best friend or your best friend, what we like about it, what the five properties that we do not want to miss? In a partnership it is with expressions of love always very attentive and inventive, says the expert , But also good friends you should say what you like and appreciate each other. Therefore just about the best friend a letter.

4. Tip: Huddle

Friendships also need shared experiences, the expert emphasizes. Unfortunately, due to time constraints we can not always meet each friend individually. Therefore, groups of friends are important, with which one undertakes beautiful things together, for example, by going to the cinema or make a bike ride. His tip: Just so organize a meeting among friends so you get several friends at once with a hat and the group experience provides common, beautiful moments Nothing connects more..!

5. Tip: Addressing Conflicts Open

Conflicts occur in every friendship. Here, the expert says: If one already longer something bothers the other, you have to address it sent, otherwise it withdraws permanently and friendship thins out slowly. This makes, as so often, the sound, the music. It is important for a diplomatic dispute culture, for example by asking your best friend: I really meet me gladly with you, but in between you always go to your phone and talk for I feel this is a problem How do you see the..?

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Best Friends Forever - The Secret of Long Friendships

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Friends are a wonderful thing. Often they are similar to us close as our life partner. The special feature: you do not see us through rose-colored glasses, but rather clear and sober. And they love us anyway!