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SETTING LIMITS TO YOUR CHILD

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SETTING LIMITS TO YOUR CHILD

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The process which parents use in order to teach an act or a rule to child is called setting limits. Family, society and cultural rules are told in tis way. All parents perform this but actions change according to families. Some of them use punishment methods and some of them do not. Some of them give clear messages, watch reactions of child and intermeddle in efficient way.

The ways about giving messages differs but all of us use the same tools to give our mesage: Words and behaviours. Both of them tell what the rules are. For an example if you tell your child to clean his room before he plays game but if your words and behaviours does not fit and your child begins to play game without cleaning and finally if the mother cleans his room the child got confused about the message that you wanted to give.Your words say ‘Clean yor room’ and your behaviours say ‘It is doesnot matter if you do not clean your room, I will do it.’ So, what is the exact rule? The answer is vague. And if you were the child who wanted to play game a lot which one would you prefer as a rule?

Most of the parents give wrong messages to their children. Children have to take net and clear messages about your rules and expectations in order to show the correct behaviours and this is related with our attitudes.

Children want to know the rules of the enviroment that they live. They want to know what are the expectations from him, who has the control and what would happen if they pass the limits. Limits make children to understand either themselves or the environment. This give the opportunity to discover and learn.

The attitudes of parents are generally grouped as: – rigid rules

– easy rules

The important thing is to support the rules with he attitudes. For an example:

-Turn down the volume of  TV

– OK mummy. (But he did not do it.)

After a time,

– Turn down the volume of TV

-OK mummy.  (But he did not do it)

The mummy comes, shouts at him and close the door in order not to hear the sound of TV. Here, the child gets the mesage of he could do whatever he wants as long as he listens his mother’s shoutings. The correct way should be:

– Turn down the volume of TV

– OK Mummy

After a while,

– Will you  turn down the volume of TV or I will turn off the TV

Children will do what his mummy wanted from him. You have to give clear message and your attitudes should support your words. The only way to set limits is to perform consistent practice with your words and attitudes.

TERRIBLE TWO

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TERRIBLE TWO

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Two years  period is magical period in the life of child and parents.Child begins to act free and s/he is able to express himself/herself which s/he begins to show obstinacy in this period.

Child’s brain development occurs very fast in two years. S/he realizes that s/he has different personality from other people. And also s/he realizes her /his value in the family. In this period child wonders everything and asks  too many questions. In this period child can understand everything and obey the orders and records evertything that exists around himself/herself.

In this period it is very important to answer all the questions of the child for his/her healthy devlopment. First indications about the personality of the child are given in this age. Two age is important because obstinacy occurs in this period which stresses the families and for this reason this period is called as ‘obstinacy period’ or ‘terrible two’. Two years of child begins to say ‘no‘ to everything and when s/he sees the effect of using ‘no’ s/he wants to use it  in everywhere and everytime. From now on your child is saying that s/he had different character and different desires. Parents should know that this period is temporary era  and will end in 2-3 years.

If you behave stubbornly towards your child, this will make everything worse. The dicipline rules in the family should be obeyed but they should not be present a challenge for child because stubborning child became angry and has tantrum. In this period the behaviour of parents is very important. It is recomended for parents to wait upto end of  his/her tantrum and not to fall upon himself/herself. The main intention should be to solve the problem before the tantum. The common fault that parents perform is to do what child desires after his/her tantrum. In this periods, child will realize that his desires are performed when s/he cries and stubborns so s/he will try to make his/her parents to do her/his desires with his/her cries.This will form his/her behaviours.

The first step should be to talk with him/her  and assure him/her. It is important to abstract him/her.The first aim of stubborning child is to abstract on himself/herself. If you talk with your asserting child this means that you appreciate him/her, but sometimes it is impossible to calm your child. Never shout at your child or got angry with him/her because s/he will shut up because s/he is afraid or s/he will cry more. Do not talk with your child during his/her tantrum. In these periods stop talking and leave your child in safety place alone while waiting the end of his/her tantrum. Tell him/her that you were understanding  him/her and you would talk with him/her when s/he became calm. In this way your child will see that his/her actions did not influence you. It is important to be calm and mean. You should talk and find a solution with your child after s/he became calm.

While talking use ‘I’ language instead of ‘you‘ like ‘I sadden when you cry’ instead of ‘you are sadden me’. Use the same desicive behaviour in every crises. Do not forget that the behaviours of parents designate the behaviours of child in the future. Finally, we can conclude as to talk and appreciate your child before crises is very important. If you talk with your child and explain him/her the problem s/he will feel himself/herself valuable and will show gentle behaviours.

DIFFERENT ATTITUDES OF PARENTS

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DIFFERENT ATTITUDES OF PARENTS

The attitudes of parents depends on the relation between parents and children. There are two important factors in attitudes: love and dicipline. The actions of parents within family give us clues for the character of child for his/her future life. Here are some groups of parents according to their attitudes;

  • PERFECTIONIST PARENTS: It is very hard for children to please their parents Parents always want more than their child’s capability. They want everything to be perfect but this perfectinist attitude is valid for whole family life, it is not limited with child. They have rigid  rules. Child live emotions like excessive dismay, stress, disturbance, disappointment. Children show behaviours like biting nails, telling lies, stammering, wetting his/her underclothes.
  • AUTHORITARIAN PARENTS: In these kinds of families parents have high authority over child. They always criticise the child. All the decisions are taken by parents. Child have no right to talk. Child should obey the rules so child’s ability about taking decisions does not develop. They do not listen child. They always criticise, judge and blame the child. Parents’ rules, desires and emotions are important.

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  • CARELESS PARENTS: Children in these families live starving of love and interest. They cannot be creative. They do not have healthy communication with people. At school they always want interest from their friends. They love to play with children younger than them. They do not show great success at school.
  • EXCESSIVE PROTECTIVE PARENTS: They do not give opportunity to their children to have life experience. They act their children like babies and do not give any responsibility to their children. They perform everything for their children.

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  • SPOTTY PARENTS: Parents act different ways to their chid in similiar situations. There is no concinnity. Parents do not agree on their behaviours to child. One of the parent permit to child for any thing whereas other parent does not permit. Also they act differently to sisters and brothers.
  • EXCESSIVE TOLERANT PARENTS: In these families there are no rules. Every desire of child is performed by parents. Children act like center of the family. Child became spoilt child. Child became spotty child and does not know what s/he want.
  • DEMOCRATIC PARENTS: Parents have healthy communication with child. They trust on their child. They upbear and glorify heir child. They give responsibility to their children and parents courage their child for new experiences. The first step for healthy communication with child is to accept the child as s/he is. Parents should accept abilities and disabilities of child.Parents should not  get angry with the child because s/he is not the person who parents desire.

Here are some handicaps in communication:

1- Blaming: ‘You always cry’

This behaviour hurts  self reliance of child and blame himself/herself for every action s/he does.

2- Giving order:‘Go and sleep’

This cause opposiition. Child do reverse of what parents say.

3-To impend: ‘ If you do not eat your meal, you will not play in the garden’

Child began to lie. They deny or lie in order not to face with threats from parents.

4- Critisizing: ‘ You did not learn to share your toys with your friends’

You child will be passive and loose his/her self confidence.

5- Warning: To warn your child in nervous way will scare your child and this causes him/her to obey everything.

6- To make feel ashamed: ‘You are making so many mistakes’

This will make your child to feel himself/herself that s/he is little and hopeless.

7- Changing subjects: ‘Let’s talk about another thing’

Your child will think as instead of struggle with difficulties escape from it.

Factors for easy communication:

  • Be quiet
  • Be empathy
  • Accept his/her feelings and ideas
  • Be honest
  • Listen and join the conversation

Do not forget your child will do what you do, not what you say.

THE WAYS TO STRENGTHEN THE IMMUNE SYSTEM OF BABIES

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                   THE WAYS TO STRENGTHEN THE IMMUNE SYSTEM OF BABIES

THE WAYS TO STRENGTHEN THE IMMUNE SYSTEM OF BABIES

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It is possible to strengten the immune system by healthy foods and some practical methods. The most important parameter for strengthenning the immune system is diseases because babies cannot  be immunizated against microbes in absolutely steril environment.

The nutrition of babies is very important for their immune system. For healthy babies, healthy bodies are needed.It is necessary for babies to get B12 and B12 is found in meat and chicken. Meat group is important to strengthen the immune system so you can add meat to your baby’s baby food.

Other vitamin group which strengthen the immune system is Vitamin B and Vitamin C. Light coloured foods are full of Vitamin B and C. The fruits and vegetables with red, yellow, orange and green colours belong to this group. Especially potatoes, sweet pepper, spinach and carrot should be in your baby’s menu.

The other nutrition group is prebiotics. Yogurt is very useful for your baby but especially for having high amount of prebiotics it is recommended  to make your own yogurt at home instead of consuming pasteurized yogurts. And also kephir is very rich from prebiotics.

Also your doctor could recommend you to give organic vitamins to your baby. If your baby is older than 6 months you can give vitamins A, C and D to your baby. Regular sleeping periods are important to strengthen your baby ‘s immune system because your baby will grow up while sleeping. The develpoment of baby’s body is occurs during his/her sleep. Mothers must show great attention especiaally to their sleeping periods.

Nursing is also necessary for babies because breast milk consists all nutritions which baby needs. It is natural antibiotics which gives natural protection to babies against diseases. Different from nutrition and regular sleeping periods vaccination has vital important. Follow your baby’s vaccination calender carefully. By the help of the vaccination many babies are rescued from illness and death. It should be known that many illness are no more dangerous for children if they are vaccinated.

In the first six months of your baby hygen is very important.Baby should be grown up in steril environment with steril goods. After six months, again clean environment is important but ‘to live with O microbe’ is not preferred because to live in absolutely steril environment is enemy of immune system. The microbes and viruses are spread in these environment more faster. To live in clean environmet and to live in steril environment are two different things from eachother. Natural and clean environment is needed for your baby.

Finally pets are important for your baby’s immune system. There is wrong belief like baby will get sick if s/he plays with pets. Your baby could play with pets if it is vaccinated.To play with pets will stregthen the immune system of your baby. This will protect your baby from allergy and help him/her to fight with microbes and viruses.

Thus, we gave some hints to strengthen your baby’s immune system. It should be known that it is enough to strengthen the immune system of your baby to protect her/him from illnesses.

RESOURCES: Mother and baby, January 2013, Demet Demirok

PRE-SCHOOL EDUCATION

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                                                    PRE-SCHOOL EDUCATION

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Pre-school education period is very important period for children before primary school education. Children are preparing to primary school by learning sharing, obeying rules and performing activities together.

For authorities in this period children have high learning capacity. And if children grow up in health interaction environment their development will be more successfull and faster. This period is the first step of their education lives so you have to show great attention to this period. It is very important to choose the exact place for your children. The most of the physical, social, emotional, mental and language development of children is completed in this period. So, healty environment is needed for the chidren’s

In this period only father and mother’s education is not enough for their personal and mental development. Upto 3 years old a child’s brain workes more than 2.5 times of adult’s brain.  70% of children’s mental development is concluded upto 7 years old. Children’s socialization is developped in this period.They learn how to speak in accurate way and learn society, environment and social behaviours. Children’s positive or negative behaviours are learnt in these period. The chilren who get pre-school education between 0-6 years old have higher success rates than children who did not have this education and also the ones who have this education learn writing and reading more faster. When they become to 12 years old their IQ level increases 5 points more than the ones who did not take this education. When they become adults, they communicate well with people and become more social.

Before choosing a pre -educational school, first of all take information about school. Be careful about school bus period for younger than 2 years old. It should not pass 15-30 minutes. It is not recomended  for children between 0-2 years old to go to school  by school bus. The inside of pre-education school shoul be suitable for chilren’s ages and sizes. While choosing school care about its garden. Its garden should be in safe. Also the school must have fire alarm system. Its  toilets should be clean and hygenic rules should be applied. The kitchen should be clean, arranged and suitable for health rules. The manager and teachers should be well educated. According to international standards, for 24-36 months old children 1 teacher must be in the class for 5 children. for 3 years old 1 teacher must be in the class for 5-7 children and for 4-5 years old 1 teacher must be in the class for 7-10 children.

Finally we can say that pre-education will assist in educating creative and successfull children with the collabration of parents and pre-education schools.