FATHERS AND CHILDREN
In traditional societies father is known as model who works and owns money. He satisfies the family’s needs. He is authoritarian so children should not disturb him because he works a lot and he is always bushed. But nowadays the role model of father has been changed.
In modern societies mothers began to work and the role of fathers began to change. The old vision of fathers changed. Forbidding and angry fathers let their places to fathers who are understanding,effective in problem solving and take strong interest in children.
Father is the most important model in the lives of children. The relationship of father between son and daughter differs. The relation between father and child is very important because the confidence on father in childhood has vital importance place in adulthood. According to researches fathers who have son take more strong interest in their child. A good model role of father hastens the development of child and increases the self confidence of father. If a child has healthy child-father relationship and child takes the interest and love of father, s/he will be successful in her/his education life and social life.The hand skills of child develop with the support of father. Mother’s support is very important in the image of ‘good father’ which occurs in the mind of child. If mother blames father and degrades him the confidence of child can doubt to father and child can live identity confusion. For this reason to identify the image of ‘father’ in correct way, not to have conflict in child’s behaviours and for the health of mental development of child the behaviours of mother is very important.
Thus, what are the important factors in father-child’s relationship?
– The father should share time to child. He should show interest and love.
– The good care of baby like health, nutrition and bath are important. These behaviours are important for healthy relation in the future.
– The father should accept the child as s/he is. He should not compare his child with others.
– The child’s positive behaviours shoud be supported and his/her failures should not be critisized. Parents should be calm, patient and helpful.
– The father should be role model to child with all of his behaviours.
Resource: Parents-June 2013
