One of the hardest thing in the world is being parented of a child. With the growth of a child, his/her desires, choices, behaviors and decisions will change. All parents desire their children’s happiness. How will you prepare your children in life?

We will give you some hints abou the adolescence. These are as follows:

• Çocuğunuzla arkadaş olmaya çalışmayın. Çocuğunuzun hayatında birçok arkadaşı olacak ama ebeveynlerine ihtiyaçları var. Kuralları koymalısın. Sen onun arkadaşı değilsin. Sen onun ailesi. Onunla arkadaş olmaya çalışırsan, kural veya sınır koyamazsın ve onları kuralları gereği mutlu insanlar olarak ortaya çıkarmayı unutma. Bu durumda kendilerini güvende hissediyorlar.
• Çocuğunuzla konuşurken onun dikkatini çekin. Eğer onun tarafından dinlenmek istersen gözlerinin içine bak. Cümlelerinizi ‘ Sizinle konuşmak istiyorum ‘ veya ‘ Size daha önce hiç söylemediğim bir şey söylemek istiyorum . Çocuğunuza söylemeniz gereken şeyler doğru olmalı. Ona karşı daima dürüst ol
• Kendini onun yerine koy. Bu ailenin çocuğu olup olmadığınızı nasıl hissettiğinizi kendinize sorun.
• Your aim should not be to affect him/her, your aim should be to control him/her because in their adolescence they should be under control but not under pressure.
• Asla çocuğunuzla kavga etmeyin. Kaybedeceksiniz çünkü çocuğunuz sizi kızdırırsa, bu sizi kontrol edeceği anlamına gelir. Kazanan olmayacaksın.
• Çocuklarımızın güvende ve mutlu olmalarını istiyoruz. Kararlarını ve seçimlerini kabul etmeliyiz. Kabul edersen, daha mutlu olacak.
• Çocuğunuzun büyümesi bir olay değil, bir süreçtir. Büyüme sınırları dahilindeki özgürlüğünü gösterin.
• And also, you should not forget that you will not be with your child as long as s/he lives. S/he will make a mistake and get experience from this mistake. His/her mistakes will show him/her the true path in his/her life.
• Help your child not by recommending but help your child by asking questions. Show that you support your child.
• You should talk to your child about sexuality. If you will not do this find a member of your family who can fulfill this instead of you.
• Be the leader of your child. Learn him/her to respect others. Show the rules and consequences of these rules if s/he does not obey them. When s/he makes a fault instead of punishing him/her, show the truth.
• During adolescence, the child’s body will change and you should talk and inform your child about these changes. S/he should know about the changes in his/her body.
• The communication between you and your child should be good. Your child is trying to learn and understand the changes in his/her life and parents are trying to understand their changing child. Listen to your child.
• Give responsibility to your child. S/he can fulfill the responsibilities that you will give to him/her like being responsible for his/her room. The room is his/her private place. Leave him/her alone there. S/he will behave as s/he wants there. Cleaning and arrangement of the room will be his/her responsibility. And do not forget by this way s/he will trust himself/herself. You can give his/her pocket money as weekly or monthly so s/he will learn to spend it neatly. Also, you can ask him/her to go shopping or to pay invoices when you are busy.
• The main stone of a family is the relation between parents. If parents have problems in their relations it is inevitable to have problems with the other members of the family. If you want to grow up good children, first of all, you should look at your relations with your partner.
• You can face some problems in life. Do not hide these problems from him/her. Never say lie, tell the problem but you do not need to tell all the details. If s/he knows the problem s/he can have the ability to cope with problems. If you hide your problems, you can foster him/her to hide his/her problems too because the logic is the same. ‘ I do not tell because I do not want to make him/her sad. ‘ If you want to teach honesty so be honest. The way to make your child tell his/her problems to you first, you will tell your problems to him/her.
• Friends are very important during adolescence. S/he can do everything for his/her friends. Their relations with their friends form the most important thing in their lives. Respect his/her friends and never argue with him/her about his/her friends. Do not forget in adolescence they live for their friends. Invite his/her friends to your house in order to know well them.
• Rules and limits are important but while putting rules you should describe the reason. In this way s/he will understand the logic of rule and s/he will not try to break rules. Tell him/her about the reason why you say ‘No’.
• The social environment is very important. As all humans also teenagers want to be accepted by society. The social group which s/he belongs affects his/her conflicts in adolescence. S/he will choose a star in this group and his/her behaviors will be affected by this star. Music and sport can be some fields which your child will have social activities in social groups that can help your child during this period.
• Finally, take important precautions for their safety and leave them free in their personal limits. If you can not cope with problems during adolescence and you need to take psychological advice, consult to a specialist.