TEMPER TANTRUM
Temper tantrum is one of the big problems that parents face with when they are growing up their children. These tantrums began with 1,5-2 years old period.Generally these tantrums continues for 3-5 minutes and usually occurs beween 15,30-19,00. There are five steps in temper tantrum. Here are the steps:
1-ANGER: According to Prof. Michael Potegal and Prof James A. Green shouting, screaming, throwing goods are typical behaviours that are seen in the beginning of temper tantrum. A search is done on little children and it is obtained that during the tantrum the noise is equal to the seamless noise of horns in busy traffic.
2-ANGER AND SORROW: Temper tantrum has two steps in the beginning as: anger and sorrow. Tantrum begins with crying and quetching and continues upto the end of the tantrum.
3- THE LEVEL OF ANGER DECLINES: Children do not like to be hugged by their parents during tantrum beause in this period they are directed by anger and they are refused to be cool down.
4-THE LEVEL OF HUGGING: After Tsunami you child is elegible to your help. Children feel themselves bad when they are out of control and after they are cooled down they feel themselves needy.Hug and kiss him/her. Tell him/her that that period was not enjoyable. Be near him/her to give confidence to him/her with your presence.
5-LEAVE IT BEHIND YOU: Emotional changes of children occurs faster than adults. After the tantrum s/he can play game in a happy way.Changable emotional situations is related with emotional elasticity.
Here are tactics that will not avail:
1-Asking Questions: 2 years old child does not have cognitive and language development in telling what does s /he feels so it is nonsense to ask why s/he is behaving like that. Asking questions like these will make him/her to feel more anger.
2- Reasoning: During tantrum child use his/her brain’s emotional part which is used by emotions so child can not talk in logical way.
3- Shouting: In these period never shout at him/her. Take a deep breath and remember that you are adult. Count upto 10 to be calm.
4-Blustering: If you tell that you will witch TV off to your child, do it. Be coherent.
5-Ignoring: Children feel themselves defenceless during tantrum if you ignore him/her this means leaving him/her alone when s/he is weak. Say him/her ‘ Continue. I will be here upto you put end to this.’ Here the target is not to remove the anger but to control it.’
RESOURCE: Parents, June 2013
