Time for love – even with baby

Finally the baby is here! The coronation of love is the missing piece for common happiness. But suddenly, many couples are faced with a whole bunch of unexpected problems. Lack of sleep, duration and armed non-existent love life – what happened to the dream of family happiness?

Couples therapist and author (‘Partnership and baby crisis’) Dr. Wolfgang : Instead of welding together a pair, a baby often results in the opposite Having a baby is indeed one of the most distinctive events..The problem: Suddenly there is a third person who asks a lot of attention. These Lack of sleep, a completely new life expiry, and you are armed and problems on the agenda.

But there is hope! New parents can certainly work on the relationship luck and make sure that the little family growing together as a functioning unit:

Defend time together

Time together was of course before the birth of the baby. Spontaneously to the movies? Sometimes just go with friends for a drink? No problem! With the baby is not easy – especially in the first few months.

Despite Baby you should find time for themselves as a couple and what together – without children – do says couples therapist Dr. Wolfgang. Friends or relatives like to fit securely on to the next generation. Perhaps there is in the neighborhood also a responsible teenager who can babysit and down.

Maintain rituals

The kiss goodbye or welcome, every first Saturday of the month eating out or cake on Sunday afternoon – each pair has rituals. Which should not be neglected after the birth of the child. Sure, some things can be in the form as it was before, not implement, but then you just fit it in.

Rituals consolidate a partnership, give strength.

Stop Perfectionism

Whether it is dealing with the baby or the housework: Many women tend to perfectionism, want things have done in a particular way and then get angry when the man makes it different. Perfectionism you should then adopt the latest, when the baby is here. Everyday life is completely shaken, it is much less time. And because it should not matter if the laundry has a few more wrinkles and the windows are cleaned only twice a year.

Frank Words

Whether with or without child: A relationship can only work if you openly and honestly deal with each other and responsive problems. No one should bottle up his anger and frustration in itself, until it eventually explodes.

Good communication is the key to a healthy relationship says Dr. Wolfgang. This is even more important when a baby is there and much attention needs to be lopped off by the time for the partner.

Do not be just mom or dad

To be mom is the most beautiful thing in the world! But no new mother should forget that she is so much more. A woman, a partner, a friend.

All of these needs should also satisfy and do not forget about the next generation.

Equitable distribution of tasks

Even if the mother stays at home in the first time and taking care of the child that does not mean that they have to do all the housework alone. To look after a baby all day is a job in itself.

Unequal distribution of housework is a common relationship problem already without offspring. At the latest after the birth of the child, the tasks should be distributed so that both partners are happy with.